So, seeking love, approval and appreciation is like living,, it's living as a slave. A person would immediately, seeking love approval appreciationg, would immediately project what they need to say, to do, how they need to move, what they need to, to ,you know, all of that, to win your approval,(Right),and so you know,, they create a facade, and you know, whatever they think, you would approve of, and then when you say, you care about that person, they never believe you, because the person you caring about doesn't exist, and they know it.
With a facade, the way I used to live, people liked me or they didn't, without a facade, people liked me or they didn't. So I'm free, and people are left with what they believe about me, and it's all good.
So, what's changed is you.(Nodding) But that's all there is to you. (Nodding). And when you were going for approval, what you thought people thought mattered .
Oh, my goodness, that's why I say, it's slavery, you know, who enslaves us? we do.It's like what will he,, what will she,, what will they think of me if I wear this, if I say that, if I do ... So everything's always censored, so we can be that facade that we think they'll approve us.( Right)
So, uh, you know, people who question their mind, begin to understand there's nothing we can do to manipulate or control another person's mind. That it's hard and more,,, it's difficult enough, and hard enough to , to know our own.(Right) That's enough. As you continue to question your mind, you just come to love you the way you are, and just find it fascinating that other people don't, and you understand why they wouldn't, because they are believing their thoughts about you.(Right).
And I say, if I had a prayer, because uh I would pray in a , in a heartbeat if if there was something I wanted, but when you have everything, when everything is just the way it's suppose to be perfect, perfect, and just for you, what would you change? Nothing.
Prayer is,uh, is , it's about ,uh, it's attemp to dictate through a plea another reality.
祈祷，嗯，祈祷是关于，，，嗯， 它是通过请求想要去主宰另一个现实的一种企图。
JoB:
You know, I used to pray,uh, you know, I was in ,you know, Jewsih school, high school, and we used to pray. I just also remember, I just did it to do it, because everybody was doing it, and we were expect to do it. And we were also told that if you did it,, because it's the law that in itself was enough, and then later the, maybe one day the intentionality would come? And I just never kind of got it...
Well, is that true? That could be why you're so open to um, just something else. Everything counts. And I hear you. (Right) and, and, (It could be..) If I were, if I were um, in a box with no way out, and frientened, and I might scream for God's help.(Oh, absolutely.) So, um, that's a prayer. So I think and also prayers that people do daily, I think it's a wonderful thing, because they're, they're coming out of what's good, and what's beautiful.So that is truer to our nature,(mm-hm), truer to their nature, and they feel better for it.(Right, I can totally..) because they like themselves when they're thinking of others and themselves，and good(Right). So, it's like of an escape from the ,um ,the mind that would see what's wrong with everything including onself.(Right).They're kinder thoughts. (Right).Thoughts for others. thoughts for yourself.
Nothing. I'm for it.(Right,right.) And if people question their stressful thoughts, uh, that's all they're left with. So you , I call this unceasing prayer. This, this, this, what's left, unceasing prayer, unceasing meditation. But the prayer answered. So it's living as the answered.
So, if ,if there's prayer, great. and if there's not prayer, fine？
所以说，如果，如果祷告，很好；如果没有祷告，也很好？
Katie:
Well. It doesn't mean anything, other than uh, many people feel better when they do. (Right.) There, it's like making ourselves feel better.it's like comforting ourselves.(Yeah). And, and, and I might have the thought, um, for example, uh," God help me." Well, I'm a very impatient person, so I would turn around, say " Katie, help yourself.". (Right, hahaha) And there's another turnaround," Katie, help God." And that's a beautiful thing. And if God were Loving what it would be everything, and I would include me, and so my arms are always open.
Open. Because there's um, you know, just talking about prayer in the book when Roxanne, I was giving her babies and didn't look too good. and her in-laws grabbed your hand and said,"Will you pray with us? " And so you did.
I was, I was just very happy to. (Right..) I was just very happy to listen to them, and I'm always open to something that I want. I just don't, I can't identify it. Every time I identify it, I already have it.
Oh, yeah. Yeah. It was amazing. There was no staff there for it, there was, it was amazing, it was, I mean , they were looking for the janitor, it was just, and then when the , the door did open, there was so much blood in that room. And, uh, there was no way to know if.. You know, one person in there doing surgey with no assistance. And the assistance they did have was, wasn't a doctor, and anyway you know, the mind can do a lot of things, but well you know, there's no mistake, then it's just all good. You just watch, you just watch, and you know. It's like...(That's what you did ,right?) Yes. And it's like being a hawk here. You know that the, the awake mind, is, you know, the awake untroubled mind is,, It's just, it's just like a ,it's just like this(moving her head from left to right)，it's just like a beam, and it's just looking for , um, basically " how can I help." because it's always okay.it's always untroubled, it's always ready to spring into help. That's its nature. (Right) And there's nothing to stop it, because there's no fear.
Good, you know, that, I think, it strikes me, it's really an amazing story. and then what I also see is that being that way in that situation,, I mean, it seems to me to be the most helpful, because it's the way it is, I mean , what's happening. And I, you know, I didn't go through that, so I'm speaking as like something I'm seeing new from from something I didn't go through.(mm-hm) So, but when I look, I see well, that would be the way to be.
Well, it, it's uh, the way that everyone wants to be. Just alert to what is in the moment, in a position to, to serve,(Right) , and awake to what to serve. You know, looking for something, you're waiting.And when it's there, Oh, Got It!(Right) It's so obvious, it's reality.(Right) Difference between reality and imagination.
Yeah, well,(But you don't know that..) Yes..(You only know that now.)Yes.you know, yes you do.(You do?) Yes, the baby lives, good.The baby doesn't live, good. There's nothing outside of that.(Right).You know, there is no duality.There's no positive and negative. It's all positive and the mind would give you every reason to believe otherwise, and then the body experiences that as stress.
