My wife said ,"I don't want to do the four questions."and when I , and so I saw two ways, you know, I could say,"You do them, I want you to do them. Cuz there are things we need to work on here.You know it." Right? That's one thing. But that's just more of the,, , you know ,that's more of ,,(Well. That doesn't work either.) And I don't know if you see it happened with people, that they do the work and then they use it as a weapon, Piu~, you know.
Sure, they'll notice that it's not a kind thing.that we can use anything.
But you know ,the work ISN'T what the power is, those questions are not where the power is, the answer IS where the power is.(Right.) So if , for example, if Steven or one of my children said,um ,said sth and I said," Is it true?" That would , that would , that would be like just shoving what they said back in their face.(Right). So,It's just not kind. Or " Turn it around.",you know, that's..
And she did. She went right out of the room.(Laugh) But you know what? It's good,because I and then,you know ,when I look ,I see,"oh, that's not,that's not what it is."
The work is personal.(Right) It's not for other people. It's for you. And That's how it works.
功课是私人的。（对的）。它并不是拿去给别人用的。它是为你自己服务的。这才是功课发挥作用的地方。
JoB:
But that's like the really key ,and you know, it says in here. It's for me. but then. It's , It's amazing.But it's very different experience when it's like a tool intead of a weapon.
但是，那就像是一把真正的钥匙，你知道，对我来说它是一把钥匙，非常神奇。
但是，要看你将它作为工具还是作为武器，两者是迥然不同的体验。
Katie:
It's a , it's a way to wake up to who does need the work. If I think someone else needs the work, I need the work.(Right.)
And it doesn't stop me from inviting people to it. If I hear someone, for example ,in an elevator or um, maybe or in a discussion on the plane, a flight, somewhere. And I hear that they're stressed out, you know ,I just can't immediately go to, “you know, I‘ve discovered the most marvelous amazing way to ,to end stress.And it's called the work of byron katie. And it's so simple, anyone can do it if they are open to it. and it just takes a moment. Would you like to try it? " And they say yes or no.(Right)
If they say no, then I send them to the website.And if they say yes, then I take the concepts that I heard ,that they're struggling over, I walk them through the four questions.And they blow their own minds.(right)And it changes their life forever.