" I have a friend who after doing inquiry sincerely for a number of years, came to understand that the world is a reflection of mind. She was married to a man who was the love of her life, and one day while they were sitting on their couch, he had a heart attack and died in her arms. After the first shock of the tears, she began looking for grief and there is was none. For weeks she kept looking for grief because her friends told her that the grief was a necessary part of the healing process, and all she felt was a completeness that， there was nothing of him that she'd had while he was physically with her ，that she didn't have now.
She told me that every time a sad thought about him appeared, she would immediately ask ‘ Is it true?', and see the turnaround which washed away the sadness and replaced it with what was true.' He was my best friend, I have no one to talk to.' became ' I am my best best friend, I have me to talk to now. 'I'll miss his wisdom' became 'I don't miss his wisdom.' there was no way she could miss it, because she was that wisdom. Everything she thought she had in him, she could find in herself, there was no difference. And because he turned out to be her, he couldn't die.Without the story of life and death, she said there was just love,he was always with her."
So, I'm like reading this and going. "Forget it, Laura! listen to this".and you know, I'm saying. "You, you wouldn't feel that way" and she says, " you know, I can really get that as possible.(Yeah) And I , and I find myself, and I upset myself with that.”
Yeah, It's like we think ,um, if you don't,,, if you don't , if we don't suffer over you , that , that we don't love you. (Right, what's up with that.) Well, suffering teaches sufffering. and it's the opposite of what we want for ourselves and other people, which is to live a happy balanced life.And sadness is um, is , is , sadness is a miner tantrum, is the war with what is.
Sadness is .. My father in-law died in January, and it was devastating to my mother in-law, and my wife is sad from time to time. you know, she's very does her day and does her life, and then sometimes at night she'll cry. and I'll say "are you sad?" and she'll say," yes, something, something in me misses him, and you know, I don't hear his voice and ”, you know , like that." So some ,so I, so I'm having trouble sort of distinguishing at all. Is ..
Well, you know, really , she was probably hearing his voice in her head , as he , as she says" I don't hear his voice". So.. And also "I'll ever see him again." is another thought people experience ,and as they're imagining that person in their head. They're seeing him, um, and on and on and on...
So, I say no one can die, they don't have that , they don't have that option in my life. No one dies.
Well. because as we , as you were talking about her , um, Laura's father, um , I was imaging my father immediately, it was a happening,and there he was. And that's what I did when he was alive, and to say he's on the other side of that room. I imagine him in the other side of the room, and and I saw him in my head when he was alive. So, there's no difference.(Right).there's no difference.
Touch, and smell and taste and textures,everything is um, is a projection of mind. we would believe that something , that there is something outside of mind. That's how powerful mind is. And there's nothing outside of mind. Mind creates it all.
You know, my father died when I was 23, and I lived at home, but I was away a lot of the day. So I didn't see him anyway.(He lived in your imagination) . You know, as amazing as I just have, when I was a little kid, I was always shocking to me, that's very like strong from, you know. I was always shocking to me when I, I always thought when I stop by myself that I only existed, and then I was always amazed that other people appearing, Because I couldn't get where they came from?
When they walk into a room, you know, does that my...?
当他们走进房间的时候，你知道，那是我的想象。。。?
Katie:
They are your imagination. And what I mean by that, the story that you're experiencing about them, is who you believe just walked into the room.（Right）
And you know , my question is who would you be without your story? You know, you would be the little boy alone ,and loving it , and a wild and wonderful fantasy.(Right) .And that's what life is, and it's a fantasy.（Yeah, that's amazing.）And what I invite the world to do, is to question their thoughts about life, and ,and really have a happy life. To , to question their thoughts , their stressful thoughts about , about life.
And in getting to that, that's what I got, the four questions addressed stressful thoughts? (Yes.) Correct?
既然说到这儿，我认为，功课的四个问题主要是针对那些有压力的念头，对么？（是的）
Katie:
Yes, they wake us up from the nightmare. And if we can wake up from the nightmare, we eventually come to see that life is a dream. and , and it's so beautiful, who wants to wake up, even though you're awake.
