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What Is Is 事实是什么

2013-5-18 12:08| 发布者: 三儿| 查看: 611| 评论: 0

摘要: The only time we suffer is when we believe a thought that argues with what is. When the mind is perfectly clear, what is is what we want. If you want reality to be different than it is, you might as w ...
The only time we suffer is when we believe a thought that argues with what is. When the mind is perfectly clear, what is is what we want. If you want reality to be different than it is, you might as well try to teach a cat to bark. You can try and try, and in the end the cat will look up at you and say, “Meow.” Wanting reality to be different than it is is hopeless.

我们感到痛苦的时刻仅仅发生在与现实争辩的时刻。头脑完全清醒的时候,现实就是我们想要的。如果你期望现实与实际发生的不同,就相当于教猫学狗叫。你可以不断地尝试,但是最后这只猫只会仰望着你发出“喵”的叫声。想要现实与事实不符是无望的。

And yet, if you pay attention, you’ll notice that you think thoughts like this dozens of time a day. “People should be kinder.” “Children should be well-behaved.” “My husband (or wife) should agree with me.” “I should be thinner (or prettier or more successful).” These thoughts are way of wanting reality to be different than it is. If you think that this sounds depressing, you’re right. All the stress that we feel is caused by arguing with what is.

而且如果你注意观察,你会发现每天都伴随着许多类似的想法。“人们应该更友善。”“孩子们应该听话。”“我丈夫(或妻子)应该赞同我。”“我应该更瘦一点(或者更漂亮点、更成功一些)。”这些想法就是我们的要求与现实不符的方式。如果你认为它们令人心灰意冷,你的感觉是对的。我们感受到的所有压力都来源于与现实争辩。

People new to The Work often say to me, “But it would be disempowering to stop my argument with reality. If I simply accept reality, I’ll become passive. I may even lose the desire to act.” I answer them with a question:“I wish I hadn’t lost my job” or “I lost my job; what can I do now?”

刚开始做功课的人会经常跟我:“做功课会使我减少对现实的争辩。如果我只是简单地接受现实,我会变得消极。我可能会毫无行动力。” 我会问他们一个问题:“我希望我没有失去工作,或我失去了工作;那么我现在能做些什么?”

The Work reveals that what you think shouldn’t have happened should have happened. It should have happened because it did, and no thinking in the world can change it. This doesn’t mean that you condone it or approve of it. It just means that you can see things without resistance and without the confusion of your inner struggle. No one wants their children to get sick, no one wants to be in a car accident; but when these things happen, how can it be helpful to mentally argue with them? We know better than to do that, yet we do it, because we don’t know how to stop.

功课让你认识到你认为不应该发生的事应该发生。它应该发生是因为它发生了,世界上没有什么想法能改变这一点。这并不意味着你容忍或者赞同它。而是向你表明,你能够毫无抗拒的面对事情的发生,不再有内心斗争的困惑。没有人希望他们的孩子生病,没有人希望遇到车祸;但是当这些事情发生的时候,我们的头脑开始与现实进行争辩,有什么方法能帮助我们?我们很清楚该做什么,但是我们没有那么做,因为我们不知道如何停止与事实的争辩。

I am a lover of what is, not because I’m a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality. We can know that reality is good just as it is, because when we argue with it, we experience tension and frustration. We don’t feel natural or balanced. When we stop opposing reality, action becomes simple, fluid, kind, and fearless.

我是现实的爱人,不是因为我是一个有宗教信仰的人,而是因为当我与现实争辩的时候我会受伤。我们能够了解到现实本身是好的,因为我们与它争辩的时候,我们在体验紧张和沮丧。我们感觉不到自在和安定。当我停止与现实对抗,我的行为会变得简单,顺畅,友好和无惧。


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